Even when children have not experienced a catastrophe first-hand, they may become anxious, confused or frightened. Children rely on their parents to provide a sense of security, which can be difficult when parents themselves are having difficulty coping with events. Some things to remember:
- Children under 5 are not able to sort reality from fantasy and are concrete thinkers. The images on television news are too intense for them to process; it is important to keep the television off until they are asleep.
- For older children and adolescents, monitor their exposure to media. All of us can become "addicted" to the news in times of crisis, and it is important that we give ourselves a break and engage in other activities.
- Keep routines as normal as possible. Children rely on routines and will become more anxious if they become interrupted.
- Feelings of fear are healthy and natural for adults and children. Children are afraid of recurrence, injury or death. They are afraid of being separated from their family, and of being left alone.
- As an adult, we need to manage our anxieties and our anger to provide stability to our children. Use other adults for support, and monitor what you discuss with your children. Coordinate your approach with other parents.
- Discuss and explain the disaster as well as you are able. Encourage children to express their feelings, and listen without passing judgment. However, do not force discussion of the events. Reassure children and adolescents that it is normal to feel upset after something bad happens, and that normalcy will return.
- Young children may experience regressive behaviors, i.e. sleep problems, toileting issues, physical complaints, clinginess and separation anxiety. These are normal behaviors that are reactions to the child's anxiety, and parents' acceptance will reassure the child and shorten the duration.
- Specific, irrational fears may develop after children have been exposed to a disaster. Younger children may become afraid of the dark or monsters or his house; older children may be afraid to go to school. It is important for parents to listen and to provide reassurance. Develop strategies with your child to help them cope with their fears and have some control over them.
- Seek help from a professional if you have concerns about your child, or questions regarding how to manage their feelings and behaviors.
For more information and help, please call the JFCS or Parents Place office in your area. |
